The reasons for the fluctuating divorce rate over the past decade are difficult to explain.

“I’ll tell you why there are so many divorces in Russia”

— I’ll immediately answer the question posed in the title: there are so many divorces because it benefits women.

Now let's look at the problem in detail . First, some statistics. On average, the ratio of divorces to marriages in Russia is about 80%. Moreover, the largest number occurs in large cities of the European part of Russia, and the smallest in Muslim republics, such as Chechnya, Dagestan, etc. The religious factor plays a role there.

Moreover, 80% of divorces occur on the initiative of women . Interesting situation? So, the myth that a woman needs a family first of all becomes untenable. If the family were in the first place for women, then they would hold on to it with their hands and feet, and not file for divorce. I assume that many will shout that it is impossible to live with scumbag men and the like. Yes, there are bastards. But not 80%. I will never believe that 80% of Russian men are scum, maniacs, scoundrels. Of course, there can be a lot of reasons for divorce. But there is one serious aspect - our legislation itself pushes women towards family breakdown.

The current anti-male, and by and large, anti-family legislation makes divorce more profitable than marriage itself. Our legislation is designed in such a way that a man in our country has virtually no rights.

First: it cannot in any way affect the process of childbirth. Whether a child is born or not is the woman's sole decision.

Second: marriage in no way prohibits a woman from going “left” and the law does not provide for any punishment for this. And if the husband himself decided to punish his wife for adultery, then he immediately falls under the responsibility of the article for domestic violence. It turns out that the husband is not the master in his own family. Neither his wife nor children can be punished for wrongdoing.

In Tsarist Russia, when a man got married, he actually took on the functions of head of the family. He could reward and punish household members. And today a man is not the head of the family. The wife is walking - you can’t punish her! If a child behaves badly, he cannot be punished, otherwise he will end up in prison for domestic violence or in juvenile justice. Even when the husband finds out that the child was not born from him, he still must provide for him together with the mother.

So why does a man need marriage? It will fall apart with an 80% chance. What does marriage guarantee to a man? A wife's fidelity does not guarantee. In the event of a divorce, children in 97% of cases remain with the ex-wife. Since judges are often women, following female solidarity, they leave children with their mothers. But not because mothers love children more than fathers, but because children are a tool of manipulation for women.

I have several acquaintances of divorced men who would be happy to keep their children. But in this case, the mother would not receive alimony, the spending of which, by the way, cannot be controlled. It is unknown on whom the alimony will be spent - on children or drinking parties.

Third: a man also loses property during a divorce. I think it is unnecessary to give examples here. Surely, many have friends who, after a divorce, lost a significant part of their property. And if the husband is a businessman, then the temptation to file for divorce is very great. Moreover, now there are trainings for psychologists on this issue. And also examples of girlfriends or stories from glossy magazines about a happy life after a divorce and taking away property from an ex-husband.

That's all we have. Marriage gives a man nothing! Neither the fidelity of the spouse (not to mention affection, support and the like). No offspring - children will be taken away by the court and, as a rule, the mother turns them against the father. And property will also be lost.

The question is, why does a man need marriage at all? Only women need it. It used to be that women dreamed of marriage. Now the main task is to find a rich sucker, live with him for a couple of years, have a child from him (or maybe not from him) and divorce him. And that’s it – a woman supports herself for 18 years. The scheme is simple. In fact, the man is currently an inferior member of the family. He acts as a supplier. He has only responsibilities, practically no rights. He is forced to bear the burden of the staff. And if he suddenly decides to remember that he is the head of the family and punish his wife or child, he will immediately appear as a super leader in the form of government agencies that will remind him that he is nobody in this world.

It can be sadly stated that current legislation is anti-family, because it provokes women into divorce by guaranteeing significant bonuses. I'm not even talking about all the little things in the form of anti-men bills that the State Duma churns out with enviable regularity. It seems that they are constantly thinking about how to pin down a Russian man. Even constitutional articles on the equality of all before the law do not work. For the same crimes, men and women receive different punishments or women are completely exempted from responsibility. According to the law, the murder of a newborn child by a mother is a mitigating circumstance. Fine? If you wet adults, then you are a maniac, but if you strangle babies, then it’s no big deal!

To correct the situation, it is necessary to bring legislation into an equal form and stop anti-family propaganda in the media. And restore the patriarchal form of the family, where the head is the husband. Patriarchy is not a form of oppression of women, as many people think, but the normal functioning of a family and society, where everyone knows their responsibilities and functions.

But now everything is mixed up. Women have become masculine and perform tasks that are not typical for them. So men became weak and began to resemble women more, both in appearance and in character. And for our society to become harmonious, successful and happy, we need to remember what a real man should be like, and what a real woman should be like.

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Rosstat: why there are more marriages and fewer divorces

Fresh data from Rosstat on the number of marriages and divorces in 2021 turned out to be unexpectedly optimistic. Let's figure out why Russians have become more active in creating families, in which regions of the country they are more likely to get married and in which they are more likely to divorce, where the population of grooms is most numerous and where the population of brides is most numerous.

Judging by the statistics, Russians have begun to register marriages more often and get divorced less often. In 2021, there were almost 917 thousand marriages in the country, which is 24 thousand more than a year earlier, and the number of divorces last year decreased to 528 thousand - 56 thousand less than in 2018.

“New families are now being actively created by young people in the age group of 25-29 years old - echoes of the last Soviet baby boom. This explains some increase in the number of marriages,” said the head of the laboratory of quantitative methods for studying regional development of the Russian University of Economics named after G.V. Plekhanova Elena Egorova.

According to her, the marriage situation is currently developing quite well. The number of 25-29 year old Russians is 10.2 million, while there are only 7.1 million 20-24 year old citizens. “Since the age of marriage is rising for both grooms and brides, I would like to hope for an increase in marriages in the coming years,” the expert notes.

She explains the decrease in the number of divorces for two reasons. “In Russia, the number of unregistered marriages is still growing, and accordingly there are fewer divorces. At the same time, unlike marriages, people decide to divorce even after a year, five and twenty years from the moment the family was formed. Since the number of marriages has been declining for quite some time, the number of divorces is also falling,” Egorova believes.

Moscow became the leader in the number of registered marriages. In 2019, 79,418 families were created in the capital, which is 4 thousand more than a year earlier. At the same time, a decrease in the number of divorces was recorded in Moscow - to 42,497 cases. In second place for the largest number of marriages is the Moscow region (54.4 thousand compared to 49.3 thousand in 2021), third is St. Petersburg (47 thousand compared to 44 thousand), and fourth is the Krasnodar Territory (39 ,6 thousand and 38.7 thousand), in fifth place is the Rostov region (26 thousand and 25 thousand).

Interestingly, the number of divorces in 2021 increased only in five regions of the country: in the Moscow region - up to 32,622 cases, Krasnodar Territory - up to 22,512 cases, Udmurtia - up to 4,492 cases, Karelia - up to 2,839 cases and in the Chechen Republic - up to 1,048 cases . Most brides live in the Yaroslavl, Ivanovo, Tula and Novgorod regions. In these regions, the share of men is 45% of the total population. It is better to look for grooms in Moscow, the Moscow region and the Krasnodar Territory - the largest number of men aged 16 and older who are not officially married live here.

From the results of the 2010 All-Russian Population Census, statisticians for the first time obtained information about the age of women at which they gave birth to their first child: then more than half of Russian women gave birth to their first child at the age of 20–24 years, and 19% at the age of 25–29 years.

Updated data on the family and marital composition of the population and the number of children in the family will become known after the 2021 All-Russian Population Census.

About the reasons for divorce according to statistics

The female part of the population has become more liberated, emotionally and mentally developed.
Natural perseverance and determination, the desire to achieve more in life encourages women to expand educational boundaries, obtain a second or even third diploma, study foreign languages and achieve high positions with an appropriate level of material remuneration.

Such women are completely self-sufficient and are not inclined to tie the knot with men who are much lower on the career ladder; most often these are single mothers or cohabitants in an unofficial marriage, not taken into account by statistics, and in a family union they are not inclined to tolerate the slightest oppression or injustice.

The male part of the population is more susceptible to drunkenness and drug addiction. Having failed to provide for the family financially with a degree of income that would satisfy the spouse, the husband and father, under the weight of reproaches, gradually begins to feel like a failure, stops the tough struggle for a higher-paying job and moves into the category of ex-spouses.

The cause-and-effect relationship in divorce, according to statistical findings, looks something like this:

addictions of various kinds (alcoholism, drug addiction, gambling addiction, etc.) - 41%;
housing problems - 26%;
influence of relatives of one side or another - 14%;
inability to have a child (physically or financially);
long separations (work abroad, rotational work, business trips, etc.) - 6%;
serving time in prison - 2%, etc.

These are the circumstances that are named as the official reason that led to the impossibility of living together. In fact, apart from the first point, which is the main one, the rest is due to the lack of funds to ensure a decent standard of living: when there is no place of their own, not everyone decides to give birth to a child, or is forced to look for a way out in a rotational method of work, in hiring frontier

The most common causes of divorce in modern families

Now people have a lot of ways to meet each other, get to know each other as closely as possible and study each other's characters and interests. However, marriages continue to fall apart. We decided to ask the expert a question about the possible reasons for divorce that people indicate in their applications. According to her, the first reason is the wrong choice of partner.

“Many people do not know how to choose the right marriage partner. In fact, many people have incorrect criteria for choosing a marriage partner. In their youth, many people motivate themselves due to hormonal background or some other factors, but when they come together, it turns out that they are completely different and completely unsuitable for each other. For this reason, many conflicts and quarrels arise.”

The second reason, according to the specialist, is loss of perceptual acuity. A woman or man who gets married relaxes, stops caring for themselves, and thereby discourages their partner’s interest. The psychologist explained that there is such a thing as an “advertising campaign,” which manifests itself at the stage of building relationships. During dates, partners try to please each other and show only their positive sides. However, after the wedding, the character of each of them emerges.

Another reason for divorce can be called upbringing itself. This aspect is much deeper. For example, daughters very often repeat the unlucky fate of their mothers and are unable to build a personal life. While men may simply be afraid of women because of grafted complexes.

The list of reasons for divorce does not end there. There may be a loss of interest in a partner, a reluctance to work on the relationship, or simple betrayal.

“As a rule, 80% of divorces occur due to the fact that the wrong partner was chosen.”

Why are there so many unhappily married people?

Only a physically healthy, spiritually developed and financially accomplished person can create a truly happy family. But very often poor non-professionals take on such a serious matter.

Many women believe in the stupid stereotype that all men cheat. In fact, this is not true.

Cheating only occurs if a person made a mistake in choosing a life partner. And if a person really loves, he is simply not interested in betrayal.

Why is the divorce rate increasing? Introductory

Q: For several years I began to notice that most of my friends who are married are getting divorced. Moreover, the reasons are often strange... not very objective... this year it got to the point that 98% of all my acquaintances, including distant ones, online acquaintances, and so on, got divorced. One gets the impression that couples are simply being destroyed en masse... this is taking some downright strange turn, like an epidemic...

How do you think this can be explained on a subtle level?

A: People often come to me with such questions. Main reasons from practice:

Children in the family and divorce: what statistics say

Fewer than 50% of couples stay married, and surveys of these married couples have shown what keeps them from leaving their marriage partner. Married couples do not get divorced thanks to the following factors:

for the sake of children - 35%;
presence of property that will have to be divided - 30%;
financial dependence on a partner - 22%;
one in four is categorically against divorce - 18%.

Still, understanding the importance of having a complete family for raising children protects 35% of couples from separation and does not give the right to put their personal ambitions of the mother or father above the interests of their children.

Why is the divorce rate increasing? Possible reasons

The ritual of MARRIAGE itself is magical, as we remember. Look how much ritualism is built into the ritual, there is no empty space for cliches! And since system magic is involved, then don’t expect any good. Previously (let’s take the last 70 years) it was more difficult to get a divorce, because you can’t separate, morality, ancestors and all that. but now it’s a piece of cake, so there’s no need to think/stress too much.

Well, the program “there is an urgent need to create a social unit”, due to which everyone gets married at 20, and then by 25 they realize the complete incompatibility of their views.

. incompatibility usually occurs at the level of the worldview: one develops, the other does not, and there will not necessarily be a connection with schizoterism, but if there is one, then it’s a total disaster - one considers the other a zombie, a schizoid, a sectarian, etc. an explosive mixture for family relationships.

The Internet is also important here: an oversaturated information environment and the ability to go to the left at any convenient moment, also when doing business.

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Official figures

Considering the statistics on the number of marriages and divorces in Russia from 1940 to 2021 as a percentage, it is worth highlighting the following pattern:

In the 1940s, there was an average of 1 divorce for every 6 families. Thus, the number of divorces in Russia at that time was approximately 17%.
In the fifties the situation improved markedly. During this period, the number of divorces per 1000 marriages was approximately 120. Official statistics in Russia give an indicator for this period indicating that about 12% of couples separate during this historical period of the country. This is one of the highest indicators for the entire remaining period in Russia to this day. At this stage of the country's development, the fewest couples break up.

Then the situation with divorce rates in Russia only worsened:

During the first decade of the new century, the situation looked too disastrous, although only in the first half (from approximately 2000 to 2005). There were too few marriages - up to 1 million, and against this background the number of divorces was too high. The figure ranged from 600,000 to 800,000. Thus, the dissolution of relationships in Russia occurred in 6 or 8 cases out of 10.
Then the situation improved somewhat. The number of marriages peaked in 2011–2012 at over 1,300,000. But the number of divorces during this period decreased slightly and fluctuated around the 700,000 mark.
It is worth noting that further the statistics of termination in Russia by year, until 2021, remains unchanged from that moment - on average it is about 610,000.
But marriage statistics since 2012 indicate that this number is consistently falling.

Data taken based on Rosstat statistics.