Why should a woman get married?
Take this fact as an axiom that a woman should be married!
Not just in a relationship, not in a civil marriage, not a “guest marriage”, not “free love”, namely, there must be a stamp in the passport. This is an important component not only for women, but also for men.
Why is this so?
If, for example, a woman is not married now, this means that she is simply not ready for marriage, or simply does not want to go there, or maybe there is simply no suitable man for this.
But, if you are now with a man, then ask yourself one single question: “Do I want to marry this man?”
You need to be very honest with yourself in this matter. Why do you want or don’t want, what could be stopping you from taking this step.
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Do you need a seal for an LLC?
It is not difficult to make the required stamp, because all you have to do is contact Pechat Expert, where they serve individual entrepreneurs and organizations. But is it necessary to do it if you open an LLC?
Those who deal with documents have probably seen contracts whose authenticity is certified only by signatures. On such papers there should be a note “I work without a seal,” and it is also placed in the case of concluding contracts with an LLC.
Since April 2015, a law abolishing its mandatory use came into force. You can also put a stamp if it is more convenient for you. But in this case, it is necessary to include the relevant provisions in the LLC charter. If the document does not contain such clarifications, you do not need to make a seal and use it for certification.
Does such a measure always make work easier? It may seem easier to put one signature, because you won't have problems because you forgot the stamp at the office or at home. But in some cases you have to explain why you are working without a seal and send additional explanations to your counterparties. Although the law is already 5 years old, not everyone is still aware that it also applies to the activities of LLCs, so it is easier to put stamps on documents.
All the reasons for your “not wanting” to get married
- Bad experience
- Negative parenting experiences
- Fear of losing something
- Reluctance to share something
- Fear of losing independence and freedom
- I won’t be able to communicate with everyone like before
- Should consult with husband
- Change your rhythm of life
- Will my husband’s parents or my own interfere?
- Children need to be “made” and raised
- Household duties, moreover, daily
- Joint budget
- There will be “gray, joyless everyday life,” and not a candy-bouquet period
- You will always “owe” everyone
- The “easy, carefree time” will end and “family life” will begin.
And yet, there are positive aspects that you definitely need to understand about the stamp in your passport.
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Positive aspects of a stamp in a passport
The wedding has died down along with Mendelssohn's Waltz, and now you are husband and wife, you are now ONE FAMILY.
The first and most important point of marriage is that the family is you and your husband. And everyone else is relatives. All mothers and fathers from different sides are just relatives. And you don’t need to run to your mom for advice about your family affairs. You need to learn to consult with the person closest to you, your husband.
The beginning of family life
PROS OF MARRIAGE
- You are now one family together
- You share all responsibilities as agreed upon
- Your support is now your husband, and you are now “behind your husband’s back”
- You can safely give birth to a child in marriage
- You can go on vacation together
- Financial support
- The concept of “I myself” will go away
- You can always receive gifts from a man and ask him for something
We anticipate your objections that for all this, a marriage mark in the passport is not needed. What else does a stamp in a passport provide about marriage? It gives the most important thing for a woman - the STATUS of a married woman.
What does “married woman status” give?
This status gives her security. She no longer needs to fight “for survival” alone, and her husband will take care of her. Because a man automatically takes on this function. The man puts a ring on her finger and in front of everyone: before his parents, before his friends, before all his relatives, he takes responsibility for this woman.
And he just can’t give up this responsibility anywhere, if something goes wrong. This is similar to financial responsibility at work, when you just can’t quit it.
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That’s why many men don’t want to take on this responsibility and live without a mark in the main document. Because they have no idea what they will “do with this stamp” if something suddenly goes wrong.
Moreover, we invite you to note that a wedding in the Orthodox Church can become that turning point in the family when the man “doesn’t know what’s going on.” A stamp in a passport sometimes does not stop you from rash actions, but a wedding can stop you. Usually, before the wedding, priests talk to the couple, ask all sorts of questions, and check the couple’s readiness to “be always together.”
It is worth taking this step and talking with the priest about your doubts and worries. Priests do not always formally approach this issue. But if you have your own “spiritual father,” then he will definitely discuss this issue with you and help. Both the stamp in the passport and the wedding are a very important and responsible step for a man; you shouldn’t delay it.
Of course, now in our modern times, all the traditions of antiquity are fading into the background, and the number of divorces is increasing. Women go through their post-divorce phase of life very hard. Men are less and less likely to want to put this stamp in their passport themselves.
Do you need a stamp in your passport?
Yana Laputina: Before I got married, I was sure that a stamp in a passport was an absolute formality that could not change anything in life. I already have a wonderful relationship - what could change?
But everything has changed. Of course, the big role was played not so much by the appearance of ink in the passport, but by the realization of the fact that I am now in a completely different social status - but my opinion is clear: marriage changes a person’s life.
Sergey Nasibyan: But for me, the stamp in the passport did not change anything. In fact, for my wife and I, the only point of getting married was to avoid the paperwork of registering and adopting our own children. If there were no formalities, it would never even occur to us to get married.
Yana Laputina: In fact, I wouldn’t overestimate the importance of marriage either. If a stamp in a passport were some kind of formula for family happiness, fidelity and fulfillment of obligations, then it would probably be very expensive.
There are people who, even with a stamp, calmly cheat and do not consider it necessary to support their own child. And there are those who will do this without any stamp. But, nevertheless, I am convinced that the life of every couple who has visited the registry office changes qualitatively.
This is not a question of whether it becomes better or worse - it simply changes: obligations are imposed on us, the level of expectation from our partner increases. Now this is not just my partner, now this is my husband. And if I tell my mother: “I’m going on vacation with my husband,” this means: “Don’t worry, I’m not just going with a man with whom I have sex and watch TV series, but with one who has made a commitment. And if a tsunami starts, he will save me, because he has to do it.”
Sergey Nasibyan: And, in your opinion, does the stamp in the passport instill all this confidence?
Yana Laputina: This confidence is inspired by a huge number of circumstances associated with the stamp. I spent a lot of time, effort and emotions on creating my family, my space: I rushed to submit an application at 8 in the morning, organized a banquet, chose outfits - so don’t expect me to give up all this so easily.
Sergey Nasibyan: But, it seems to me, the stamp in the passport, in addition to the fact that it imposes certain obligations on us, also greatly limits freedom. That is, people begin to demand from each other what they have fantasized about being family-related.
In general, in the culture of modern civilization, a marriage certificate means that now I owe something. After all, how does everything usually happen? Two people, a man and a woman, enter the relationship market. Everyone has their own goods and services, they begin to look for demand and find each other - they go to the movies together and even live in the same apartment.
But the worst thing begins at the moment when for some reason they decide that it’s time for them to get married. And two long lists roll out from both sides - one says what the partner should now do, and the other says what he should not do under any circumstances.
And it comes to the point of absurdity: well, for example, now you have to love my mother. Why should I love a woman who is foreign to me?
Anna Kireeva: It seems to me that this is some kind of completely anecdotal case. Well, is the requirement to love someone’s mother really common?
Sergey Nasibyan: Unfortunately, yes. Due to my profession, I regularly encounter problematic relationships and I can say that 80 percent of people are not free from such attitudes.
Yana Laputina: Sorry, I will argue. What Sergey described is the wrong scenario. And the presence of columns about psychology in magazines and psychologists as a caste should combat this scenario. I insist: I must respect my husband’s mother, but I do not have to love her. My husband must respect my parents, but is not obliged to love them. And in general, he doesn’t owe me anything, just like I don’t owe him anything!
Sergey Nasibyan: I didn’t talk about the categories “right or wrong”, I only said that this wrong scenario exists, moreover, it is more popular than ideal layouts. But if we are talking about how to avoid such things, then there is only one possibility: to increase the level of awareness of both men and women in marriage. Many problems arise even when people make assumptions about their family. What do you think people typically look for in marriage?
Yana Laputina: Stability, partnership.
Sergey Nasibyan: If only there were partnerships! But most people expect to have love and happiness in their marriage. As soon as a person answers the question “Why am I going to the registry office?” This is exactly how he shifts the responsibility for his happiness to another person. And as soon as a person relieves himself of responsibility for his own future and state of mind, the partnership as such disappears and the sign turns on: “You must make me happy.”
Anna Kireeva: So we are wondering how this happens, what is the reason? Why don’t loving people roll out forty-point ultimatum lists to each other before marriage, and then this happens?
Sergey Nasibyan: Because going to the registry office allows you to call a person “my husband” or “my wife” - and here the words “husband” and “wife” are not as scary as the word “my”.
As soon as I call a person “mine”, I mean that he owes me - love, protection and anything else on the list. This is how our brain works: since you belong to me, it means that I will diligently do everything to adjust you to my interests. In general, all our troubles come from the mind.
Anna Kireeva: Tell me, are we seriously talking about the fact that marriage is a problem and a psychological trap? I may have idealistic ideas about family, but I think that in most cases it is a union of two equal people who are interesting to each other.
Yana Laputina: Ideally, this is exactly how it should be. It is worth getting married only if you realize that this is partnership, equality, internal freedom - because all other beliefs lead to divorce. If you get married expecting that now they will love you all your life, will never cheat on you and will pay for all the fur coats, this cannot be called the right motivation.
Sergey Nasibyan: I know couples who get married, force their parents to pay for luxurious weddings, get into debt themselves, and after a while they get divorced - and for many months they continue to pay off the loan for a wedding that no longer means anything. Why does this happen? Because for many girls the picture is idealistic - from the wedding they only expect a white dress, music, gifts and beautiful photographs that can be posted on social networks.
Maria Belokovylskaya: Then let's try to formulate what marriage is and what to expect from it in general.
Sergey Nasibyan: It seems to me that for most, family is synonymous with security, comfort and stability.
Yana Laputina: Actually, marriage is a socialized form of natural selection, nothing more.
Anna Kireeva: It seems to me that the intention to get married is a certain logical stage in a relationship, a demonstration of the desire to evolve together, an attempt to give new energy to the relationship.
Yana Laputina: For me personally, marriage has become a logical, natural continuation of everyday life: I simply chose a person who will support me morally just as I support him, from whom I want to have children, being sure that they will not be beggars.
Sergey Nasibyan: But these are just expectations, your idea of how the future will turn out. What if for some reason my husband doesn’t live up to expectations?
Yana Laputina: I think a crisis will break out in relations. But still, if a family is a partnership, then all the problems that happen are no longer the problems of the husband or wife, but your common ones, your family’s. And you must solve them together.
Sergey Nasibyan: Yana, this is exactly how people think exactly until the moment a problem arises, and as soon as it appears, people lose awareness. Let's start not from ideal models, but from what actually happens. Even if we decide today that this is wrong, people still get married and put a lot of labels on their partners.
The horror is that by putting a stamp in our passport, we hand over responsibility for our life to our spouse and begin to depend on him. And as soon as the partner does not live up to increased expectations, compensation is triggered in the form of scandals, reproaches, reminders of who promised what to whom, and so on.
Yana Laputina: Let's put it this way then: most people in marriage regularly make classic mistakes, but still, if a family is a partnership, then problems need to be compensated not on the side, but within the relationship. If a girl thinks that after marriage life will become fabulous, then I can say for sure: it won’t. But making your story not a thriller, but, say, a romantic comedy is your choice and your efforts, which, by the way, you voluntarily signed up for at the registry office.
Maria Belokovylskaya: Don’t you think that the syndrome of unjustified expectations arises only if the girl wanted marriage for the sake of marriage and she was more interested in the wedding cake than in long-term family goals?
Yana Laputina: This is the same axiom as two and two equal four.
Sergey Nasibyan: Then let’s be honest: absolutely no one is immune from unfulfilled hopes. When I work with people and ask the question: “Why do you need marriage?”, they usually start listing things that have nothing to do with marriage.
Anna Kireeva: For example?
Sergey Nasibyan: Well, here’s what marriage is for? To be what?
Anna Kireeva: Happy.
Maria Belokovylskaya: Satisfied, secure.
Sergey Nasibyan: Well, now the question: do you know people who have a family, but are unhappy, dissatisfied and low-income? So you know people whose marital expectations had nothing to do with marriage. Context always determines content. And people who get married perceive it contextually.
And they consider their family happiness and interpersonal relationships to be content. In fact, the opposite is true. Happiness, love and relationships should be the context, and marriage itself should be only the content, just a stamp in the passport. If I got married to have regular sex, then it seems to me that marriage will guarantee this. But after the wedding, I will be faced with reality in the form of a headache - and I will immediately present claims to my wife about this.
Yana Laputina: I think the main thing is not to confuse the concepts of “expectations” and “planning”. Building some illusions known only to you when going to the registry office is stupid, this is a path to disappointment, but sitting down and agreeing on the rules of the game in your future family, that is, planning the details, is very important. I am always for negotiations as an integral part of any business process, and marriage is no exception. And then expectations will be based only on what was said by your partner.
Sergey Nasibyan: Just keep in mind that a person’s values and priorities change approximately every six months, and there is no need to be afraid to discuss issues that are important for your family again and again, as if synchronizing watches.
Maria Belokovylskaya: Is it true that many claims of spouses against each other are connected only with the fact that people relax after the wedding? Previously, wanting to please, she ironed shirts, but now she doesn’t want to, and while the man was courting, he literally went out of his way, and then returned to his original position.
Sergey Nasibyan: Well, of course: the peacock spreads its tail and sings, wanting to attract the most beautiful female, and as soon as the mating season ends, there is no need for him to keep his tail in sight.
Yana Laputina: The same example with an interview: you go to the first meeting - and, of course, carefully choose an outfit, prepare, strive to look perfect. And after working in the company for a year, you can easily come to the office without makeup or in a bad mood - after all, everyone there knows you, they will understand. It's the same in relationships.
Anna Kireeva: But on the other hand, where else but at home, alone with a loved one, can I be myself and, if I’m not in the mood and have the strength to put on makeup, not force myself?
Yana Laputina: Thinking like that is a serious mistake, especially for a woman. Today I’ll decide that I can wear high heels at home, tomorrow I’ll stop wearing perfume, the day after tomorrow I’ll forget about deodorant (well, I’m at home!) - and on the fifth day I’ll become a fat, unsexy wife in a faded robe who doesn’t understand why her husband is cheating on her .
Anna Kireeva: I rather had something else in mind: when I come home to my beloved man, I want to find myself in an emotionally comfortable environment. And if I’m tired and intend to cry today, then where else should I do it, if not on his shoulder?
Yana Laputina: Of course, in a family we can be more psychologically relaxed, because a person cannot and should not pose all his life, but if you cry every day, a man will one day realize that he married a hysterical woman.
Maria Belokovylskaya: We talk a lot about the fact that marriage and family life are often a series of problems and disappointments. But are there any tools to make your family happy?
Sergey Nasibyan: There is only one tool: love yourself a little more than your partner, and let your partner love you, do not overstep your interests, but at the same time learn to talk and negotiate.
Yana Laputina: I think for a happy family life it is enough to give the person next to you space to develop, to learn from each other. In fact, the most correct answer to the question of why we get married is to simply be together. You need to live here and now, preferably enjoying it. Those who marry with the goal of “always being with this person” can be truly happy every day.
Sergey Nasibyan: In addition, do everything so that the stamp in your passport does not change your relationship. There is no need to dramatize the fact that you are now husband and wife - keep it simple! Relationships and family are not given to us to be happy and loved - they exist to give us the opportunity to realize, learn and develop.
Legal, property and monetary issues
Everyone has heard the expression “Without a piece of paper, you are a bug.” It is still relevant today. For some reason, when buying a new car, a person is eager to draw up documents for it as soon as possible. No one questions the importance of this moment. After all, traffic police inspectors will not take your word for it if you swear that the car is in your property.
Same with relationships. You cannot resolve any issue regarding property or money without official confirmation that you are husband and wife.
