5 reasons why women aged 30-40 are more likely to file for divorce than men

Main reasons

Young people want to remember their wedding for the rest of their lives.
The joy of having a family and love for each other promises a happy future. But reality proves the opposite. Young families turn out to be fragile and very often break up without lasting even a few years. Sociological tests and surveys conducted by Russian statisticians determine the following main reasons for divorce:

• bad habits;
• housing difficulties;
• influence of relatives;
• problems with conception;
• separate living;
• jail;
• serious illness of one of the spouses.

In addition, there are circumstances in which annulment may not be easy. The divorce process is complicated by the following issues:

• who will the children stay with?
• property division;
• financial dependence of spouses on each other;
• refusal of one of the parties.

Determining the place of residence of children

After parents divorce, all conditions must be created for a comfortable life and development of their child. First of all, this concerns housing. The parent with whom the baby will live must have his own living space, the ability to provide financially for the child, pay for medical care, purchase clothes, pay for education, etc. But not only the financial side of the parent is taken into account, but also the moral component: with whom is it easier and more convenient for the baby to live, to whom is he more attached.

In Russia, it has long been the practice that after a marriage is dissolved, the child remains to live with his mother. The baby's father is obliged to take part in his upbringing and help financially.

The courts in most cases support the mother’s point of view and leave the child with her. But this is not always the case. If a woman leads an immoral lifestyle (drinks, uses drugs), and does not have permanent sources of income and her own home, then the court will most likely leave the child with a more prosperous father.

Who does a child stay with after his parents divorce?

What rights does a father have to a child after a divorce?

Statistical data

The country's registry offices keep statistics that are disappointing. The difference between the number of marriages and divorces is decreasing. Young people prefer civil marriage, not taking into account the fact that this type of relationship does not give people living together rights and responsibilities towards each other.

On years

Survey statistics indicate an increase in the number of divorces in Russia. The table shows statistics on marriages and divorces in Russia over several years.

Who files for divorce more often?

It is believed that the initiator is often a woman, as a more sensitive and emotional person.
She endures the inconveniences of family life and lack of satisfaction for a long time, but when she nevertheless decides to divorce, it is difficult to dissuade her, since by that time her patience is overflowing. The spouse often also does not strive to preserve the family; he is satisfied with a free life. In 70% of cases, it is the wife who initiates the divorce. But a survey of men revealed a number of reasons that they, for their part, consider objective for divorce:

• lack of trust;
• spouse's alcohol addiction;
• lack of sexual satisfaction;
• infertility;
• everyday problems.

Only after 50 years, family breakdown occurs more often on the initiative of a man. Adult children who have entered an independent life and lost interest in their spouse are the most common reasons given by those surveyed.

It is worth noting that the critical period is considered to be the years of marriage, from the fifth to the ninth. More than 25 percent of divorces in Russia occurred during this period. Couples who have been married for one or two years often break up.

Cheating statistics

One of the main factors in the breakdown of marriages is infidelity.
More than half of married people have married lovers, only 10% have relationships with single women. These sad data are associated with misunderstanding between spouses and the reluctance of each of them to give in. Some fads have negative health consequences. Many spouses are satisfied with such a life, but secret relationships are sooner or later discovered. The most negative thing is that about 30% of children imitate the behavior of their parents. Although men cheat more often, some ladies are not far behind them.

They justify their betrayal with the following reasons:

• frequent absence of a spouse;
• dissatisfaction in marriage;
• spouse's drunkenness;
• resort flirting;
• revenge for betrayal.

The blame for separation due to infidelity lies with both spouses, who, instead of struggling with the difficulties of family life, seek satisfaction on the side.

Life after divorce

The breakdown of a marriage is a kind of transition to a new life, when the past remains in memories, and new hopes arise for the future. To live further, you need to reconsider your own self-esteem and believe in the future.

First of all, a person needs to find balance and accept himself. Even a painful divorce will restore adequate self-esteem. You shouldn’t immediately try to look for a replacement to fill the empty niche. We need to look forward, not look back to the past.

New acquaintances must be considered taking into account the family experience gained. If your previous marriage broke up due to infidelity, you don’t need to carry this burden with you.

A woman searches for meaning in every day, gradually calming down and relaxing. Life should be filled with activities, but sometimes you should be alone with yourself. Survey data show that every fourth “ex” wants everything back after a divorce. But whether she needs it, the woman will understand herself. After all, she only felt free and happy.

World statistics

Every year the number of couples legally married decreases. The number of divorces in the world is off the charts.

According to divorce statistics in the world, there are 10 countries with the highest percentages:

1. Hungary.
2. Sweden.
3. Czech Republic.
4. Portugal.
5. Ukraine.
6. USA.
7. Russia.
8. Belgium.
9. Belarus.
10. Maldives.

Divorce statistics: what do divorced women regret?

After a divorce, many women experience regret, wanting to take everything back. But, according to statistics, even more representatives of the fair sex regret that they did not decide on a divorce much earlier.

Over time, many divorced women begin to reproach themselves for this step, looking for shortcomings and reasons in themselves that led to the dissolution of the marriage. But, taking into account the statistics, the majority of modern women, on the contrary, feel relief after being freed from marriage and scold themselves only for the decision to hastily get married. Even among celebrities, there are those who are not shy about talking about how divorce helped them become better people.

Experts conducted many studies and surveys in which more than 9,000 divorced women of different nationalities, social levels and religious views participated. It turned out that most of the fair sex after a divorce regret not that they got divorced, but that they did not do it earlier. Based on statistics, we can identify 5 main things that divorced women regret.

Special cases

Every married couple has its own individual story. Marriages are made in heaven, but divorces are made on earth. There are two people to blame for the collapse, but statistics show the main signs of marriages that have the greatest risk of ending sadly or, conversely, being strong and long.

Early

Marriages entered into by girls under 18 years of age, and by boys under 25 years of age, are considered early. Their number has decreased significantly in recent years. Ten years ago, during the five-year study period, 3,000 marriages among men and 25,000 among women were registered between minors. Over the last five years - 1,700 and 16,000 marriages, respectively. But the problem of early marriage exists not only in our country, but throughout the world. Out of 6-7 such marriages, five break up.

Repeated

“Natives” from the previous category often enter into a new marriage. Experts have defined this category as more “tenacious”. The results of experience and mistakes acquired in the first marriage contribute to a reassessment of people's views on family and relationships.

Interethnic

The number of marriages between people of different nationalities has been increasing recently. Last year, about 50 thousand such unions were registered in Russia alone. The desire of the spouses to be together and the ability to reconcile the inconsistencies of different mentalities, strict upbringing are the reasons for the longevity of such marriages.

Civil

Statistics show that 85% of men living in a civil marriage consider themselves free from obligations.
But among women in the same conditions, only 8% call themselves single. Based on observations of civil couples living together for several years, the following facts are noted:

• after 2 years, 20% of cohabiting couples submit an application to the registry office;
• by three years - 17%, statistics drop.

Couples living in a civil marriage for more than four years often separate.

If only children are born in such a union, then half of the total number of civil families legitimize their relationship. In Russia, 40% of couples cohabit in this way.

With foreigners

A few years ago, such a marriage was seen as a good deal. Today the situation has changed, marriages with foreigners have become less attractive. The statistics of the collapse of such unions is high, the reasons are often deportations and cancellation of visas.

How to protect your marriage from divorce

Although all couples inevitably face major life changes and traumatic events throughout the evolution of their relationship, this does not mean that their love is doomed. There are many things any married couple can do to ensure their marriage goes a long way. A lot depends on the husband. He can:

• tell your wife that you love her;
• show your wife that you love her;
• talking and listening to your wife because she has important things to say and is an equal partner in their marriage;
• talking to your wife and sharing your struggles, achievements, thoughts and dreams;
• show attention to her;
• anticipate her needs by making her life a little easier - loading the dishwasher, wiping the table and making her breakfast;
• remember that his wife is the most beautiful woman in the world (and make sure she knows that he knows it).

There are many reasons why a woman would file for divorce. Whether it's pursuing your own happiness, escaping an unhappy marriage, or a midlife crisis, the one thing most divorces have in common is a new sense of empowerment.

What to do if your husband filed for divorce

How should an offended wife behave if her beloved spouse initiated the divorce?

First of all, you need to calm down, weigh everything and develop a line of behavior. Violent scandals will not lead to a solution to the problem; they will only have a bad impact on the physical and psychological state of a woman.

It is important to recognize that the husband has the right to divorce. Therefore, many issues related to the division of property, children, and debt obligations must be resolved. It is necessary to draw up agreements on the division of property, agree on relations with children, then the divorce process will be faster and painless. Two people can always find the strength to come to an agreement, then there will be no need to go to court and expose themselves to unnecessary stress.

When a dispute arises between estranged spouses, or if the wife does not want to give her husband a divorce, she will have to go to court. It is there that they will help resolve all situations without personal conflicts. A woman must understand the inevitability of the process, despite resentment and bitterness. The marriage has already cracked, nothing can be done. You need to behave correctly in court, this will have a positive effect on the result. A clear line of behavior, confidence and calm will help you pass all the tests quickly and efficiently.

The following video analyzes the statistics of divorces in Russia, and, most importantly, why people get divorced so often.