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What is adolescence

When a child enters middle school, many parents stop recognizing their child. His behavior changes dramatically, he becomes rude and irritable. Adults understand that it is difficult for them to cope with the behavior of their daughter or son.

Preparations for the transition to adulthood begin.

What happens to the child

Adolescence in girls and boys is a complex psychological process in which a child moves from childhood into adulthood. This manifests itself in the fact that the teenager reveals a desire to be independent, he strives to position himself differently among his peers in order to find a place in society, and even tries to adjust the environment to his tastes.

The transitional age for girls usually begins at 10-12 years old and ends at 18 years old.

A teenager’s new view of the world around him often does not coincide with the worldview of his parents. Parents, for the most part, begin to worry not so much about the child’s specific actions, but rather about the fact that he has ceased to be under control. This leads to total misunderstanding and scandals in the family.

Then the child begins to show rebellious behavior and even aggression, which sometimes leads to sad consequences.

This period is also accompanied by puberty, growth accelerates, and physical characteristics develop. The formation of all internal organs and systems of the body is completed. Many hormones begin to be intensively produced. The teenager's nervous system is overloaded due to all these changes.

When does puberty begin and how long does it last?

Clear boundaries of adolescence are difficult to define. During this period, everyone has different characteristics and an individual rhythm of what is happening. In general, age boundaries are determined by psychologists from 10 to 17 years, with the adjustment that adolescence may occur earlier, and may also occur towards the end of these boundaries and last beyond 17 years.

Girls go through puberty a little earlier than boys. It usually ends by the age of 16-17. For boys, it starts from 13-15 and can last up to 19-20 years.

Puberty: delay and development

Woman or girl, what's the difference? Depending on their individual body, some teenage children start their menstrual cycle a little earlier, while others start their menstrual cycle later. There's nothing wrong with that.

The time when your first period occurs depends on various factors. Body weight and volume of adipose tissue will play an important role. Fat deposits, or more precisely, fiber, form the hormone leptin, making it possible to produce estrogen and accumulate it. To put it in simpler terms: the more a girl weighs, the earlier her period will begin.

Most often, reproductive function begins at a weight of 46 kilograms. Of course, we should not forget about external factors, such as stress and physical activity that the girl experiences. With frequent physical overload of the body at the time of maturation, the menstrual cycle may be delayed.

Her heredity will play a very important role in the development of a girl. If a grandmother or mother’s cycle began late, there is a high probability that this will happen again in the child. But you should pay attention to a nuance: if the girl is already 13 years old, and she still does not show signs of puberty, you should go to an appointment with an endocrinologist. The child may have damage to the hypothalamic-pituitary system and other health problems.

It happens that puberty begins earlier than usual. This will be expressed in growing breasts, hair in the pubic area and armpits. Just in case, it’s better to also consult a doctor, you never know what kind of failure has occurred.

The causes of early puberty may be a tumor of the hypothalamic-pituitary system or problems with the adrenal glands. It’s better to play it safe and be calm for the child.

Reasons for changes in adolescent behavior

The second name for transitional age is puberty. Changes at the physical and psychological level are perceived by a teenager as dramatic events. He shows anxiety and aggression, becomes more attentive to himself and shows shyness.

There are several reasons for behavior changes:

1. Puberty. During this period, active growth of hormones occurs. This factor leads to the fact that the teenager is more sensitive to the opinions of others about himself. The assessment of people who are authoritative for him is important to him, he wants recognition, so he changes his behavior and behaves cheekily, shows interest in the opposite sex, and tries to arouse interest in himself with his unusual appearance.
2. Physical development. Over the course of a year, a teenager can grow by an average of 9 cm. The heart muscle grows rapidly, and the usual blood pressure and heart rate change. There is a general weakening of the body, and health may worsen.
3. Emotional changes. Teenagers become emotionally unstable and contradictory, purposeful and impulsive, self-confident and vulnerable, insecure and cynical, all this is intertwined in short periods of time, and also for insignificant reasons.
4. Changing your thinking. From this period, the child is able to think more abstractly, reason using hypotheses and deduction, analyze the situation and draw conclusions. He can see prospects and plan his future.
5. Development of the social side of personality. Relationships with peers play a paramount role in adolescents during this period, which is why trust in relationships with parents often disappears. Communicating with peers, teenagers exchange experiences of growing up, discuss sexuality, and also release their emotional experiences and find understanding with each other.

During puberty, a teenager moves away from his parents, becomes independent, although not always self-confident, he searches for his own path of development. Therefore, the task of parents is not to control his behavior, but to form a partnership with their child.

Only in the case of cooperation, and not management, can the main tasks of this age be solved.

Pregnancy and childbirth

Menstruation does not mean that the body is fully formed. A girl can become pregnant at a very young age - 12-15 years. Unfortunately, at this age there may be problems during pregnancy and childbirth. Physiologically, a girl becomes a woman 5 years after her first period.

These are the features during the transition from a girl to the age of a full-fledged woman. If you have your own opinion on what signs can be used to determine that a girl has become a woman, indicate this in the comments.

Gender characteristics of adolescence

Changes for girls and boys during the transition period are somewhat different. Visually, this becomes noticeable at the age of 11-12 , when in the same class, against the background of boy children, girls begin to look more mature. Boys begin to change 1-2 years later.

If boys, having become physically stronger, try to show the world their masculine self, then the behavior of girls looks completely different. One’s own appearance is the main factor in all experiences. At this age, you especially want to please the opposite sex, so the slightest pimple, weight gain or excessive oiliness in your hair leads to a state of mental imbalance.

Inflated demands on themselves often push girls to act thoughtlessly.

They start torturing themselves with diets instead of exercising. Hence excessive irritability and mood swings. The transition period for girls is due to the fact that each strives to look better than others, dress more fashionably, behave more confidently and at ease.

Friendship with the opposite sex often turns into love, most often unrequited. This is another reason for self-criticism and looking for flaws in one’s appearance, which leads to depression. For all her independence and confident, and sometimes daring behavior, every girl is vulnerable and sensitive during this period.

The family’s task is to support and give confidence in the daughter’s beauty and talents. A trusting relationship with your mother plays an important role.

A girl should know that there is an adult to whom she can entrust her secrets and will not be ridiculed and humiliated. Mother's support is undeniably important for a girl. As boys begin to experience their increased physical strength and sexual activity, they begin to face all sorts of problems.

They want to prove their importance to the whole world, to show themselves as an adult man.

This becomes the cause of his mental anxiety. Poorly imagining adult values, the teenager begins to demand more rights, forgetting about responsibilities. And when a boy tries to understand his internal goals and positions, he withdraws into himself and can become shy, stubborn and aggressive.

The atmosphere, especially the family, in which a teenager grows up has a huge impact on the development of his personality. Relationships with parents are undergoing changes. The teenager begins to treat his father as a rival , and the son tries to distance himself from his mother, to free himself from her excessive care.

A good solution would be if parents manage to engage their child in sports , where he will develop physically and feel more courageous in the eyes of those around him, which will give him self-confidence.

At what age is a girl considered a woman: survey

The girls themselves are on a completely different scale. According to surveys, most of them believe that verbal expression of gender depends entirely on the level of attractiveness and sexuality.

A girl is physically desirable, capable of procreation and suitable for sexual activity.

A woman is someone who has lost her external attractiveness, is unable to conceive and give birth to a healthy child, and is not interested in men as a sex object.

Hence the joy of the woman who, despite her age, was called a girl. She took it as a compliment, that is, she was considered young and healthy.

This means that she looks good and makes a good impression. About 60% of respondents think so!

Symptoms of adolescence

Parents who are attentive to their child will always see changes, physical and psychological. It is important not to experience anxiety during this period, much less pass this condition on to a teenager. By accepting the child’s new condition with understanding, there is a chance of going through this period with ease and without any problems.

All of the above symptoms are also accompanied by ailments related to health and well-being. The rapid growth of the body is sometimes accompanied by dizziness, sweating, hypoxia and even fainting. There may be pain and aches in the joints and muscles, and rapid heartbeat.

You can find out what a teenager experiences during adolescence from this video:

https://youtu.be/1INocSrcWVo

This happens because the bones, muscles and blood vessels do not keep up with the rapid development of the teenager’s body.

The main mistakes of parents

Every parent wishes only the best for their child. But they do not always understand that some actions in the process of upbringing only alienate their child and spoil relationships. In the future, this teenager, already an adult, when faced with problems and failures, will blame their parents for them, because all psychological problems come from childhood.

What mistakes do parents make:

Lack of attention to the teenager. From an early age, you need to show care and attention to the child, take an interest in his hobbies, and if there are none, then form this interest in some type of activity. You can go through several sections and choose the one that your child likes.

Compulsory participation in a sports section or other type of activity leads to the development of discipline and gives him confidence. If a child is not accustomed to any activity from early childhood, then looking at other peers, the teenager may feel resentment towards his parents, expressing his reproaches about this.

Overprotectiveness. This is the second extreme, which leads to misunderstandings with the teenager. Choosing a child's social circle, profession and place of education will sooner or later lead to complaints and a demonstration of feelings of resentment. Or parents instill in their child the desire to be an excellent student.

At first, he copes with this with joy, rejoices in the fact that he stands out among his peers, and asserts himself through this. However, in the future this could have a detrimental effect on his psychological state, because always studying for straight A’s was not his choice.

Inability to communicate. A teenager tries to behave like an adult, although no one taught him this. Seeing this, parents often begin to read morals to the child, use methods of prohibitions and punishments, speaking in high tones. However, during this period, the teenager needs support from his closest people.

It is important to learn to speak with him tactfully, in some places to sympathize and support, and in others to gently express constructive criticism.

Ridicule and humiliation. Often parents mock the teenager’s feelings, perhaps even because of his first love, considering this event frivolous and early. By ridiculing feelings, parents alienate their child. At this moment, you need to explain to the teenager the important criteria by which he himself must determine whether the object of his love is worthy, and find out why he is drawn there.

Perhaps the child simply lacks attention and love from his parents.

Excessive control. By limiting a child in his desires and needs from early childhood, you can come to the point that by adolescence he will not have any desires of his own. Such a teenager is not interested in anything, he does not strive for any goals, and spends his time on computer games.

In the future, this can lead to developmental delays due to age. It is important to create conditions for comfortable personal development not through control and restriction, but through respect for the desires and needs of the child in the process of his upbringing.

Correct actions of parents

Although the transition period for girls and boys is different, parents’ actions should be aimed at achieving understanding and supporting their child, regardless of his gender. It is important for parents to understand that the transition period has certain tasks that they need to help the teenager cope with and survive this period with him.

Challenges of the transition period

• acceptance of one's appearance;
• successful mastery of one’s role (male or female);
• changing the way you communicate with peers;
• transition in relations with parents to equal cooperation;
• identification of professional interests and abilities for further career guidance;
• accepting oneself as an adult. Mature behavior based on responsibility and initiative.

Having solved these problems, it will be possible to say that the transition period is over. The task of parents in all this is to support and help the teenager not by raising him, but by cooperating with him. Parents also experience stress during this period.

First of all, you need to be patient and then follow some general recommendations from psychologists:

1. Be friends with the child. During adolescence, a child is sure that his parents are unable to understand him, so it is difficult to gain his trust. You need to open up to him and convey to him that parents also have complexes and shortcomings. Having found a friend in the person of at least one parent, the child will always share his experiences and events. In this case, he can be helped if the situation requires it.
2. Show interest in. You should regularly talk with your child, take an interest in his thoughts and life, involve him in family issues and indicate that his opinion is important. Show interest in hobbies and support them. By these actions, parents will help themselves earn trust.
3. Provide freedom and choice. Every teenager has a need for personal space and their own room. There is no need to keep all his actions under control (sometimes parents eavesdrop on conversations or examine the child’s personal belongings). A teenager's total limitation in something leads to even greater interest in it. Here it is important to talk and give the child the right to understand for himself whether he needs this forbidden thing or not.
4. Forget about criticism. During the period of maturation, teenagers are very vulnerable and sensitive; any criticism can have a detrimental effect on the psyche. Dissatisfaction should be expressed in a gentle form, combined with praise. You need to direct the remark not at the child, but at the action or mistake, explaining to him in a calm tone.
5. Praise. Praising even the smallest good deed will encourage the child to do even greater good deeds. While indifference or criticism, on the contrary, will discourage desire and create a complex. Girls should definitely be praised for being thrifty, showing kindness and femininity.
6. Be patient. The transitional age is accompanied by intense emotionality. If a child suddenly flares up and becomes rude, you should not behave in the same way in response, otherwise this will lead to a scandal. You need to wait for a calm environment and discuss this with the teenager, figure out what made him so angry and for what reason.

The transition period for girls, a little more than for boys, is due to the fact that they sometimes defend their rights very fiercely. For girls during this period, all events represent two extremes - either good or bad. The task of the parents in this case is to gently explain to their daughter that there is a “golden mean”.

We need to help her cope with her excessive categoricalness. By explaining to the girl that any bad event can have its positive aspects, parents will help her grow up. With all the patience and attention shown to a teenager of any gender, you should not relieve him of responsibility during this difficult period.

Becoming an adult means not only acquiring more freedom and rights, but also increasing responsibility.

You need to be able to maintain a balance in this. If you allow a teenager to make his own choice, then responsibility for this choice should fall on his shoulders. Same with freedom. More freedom - more responsibility. This is the only way a child will learn to grow up.

When a girl is going through adolescence in the family, parents should exercise self-control.

Be patient and love your child. The ability to forgive is also an important factor. To survive this time with dignity, you should show flexibility and diplomacy. Then the relationship with the child will become trusting, and it will be possible to avoid many of the problems that accompany this period.

Article design: E. Chaikina

Reproductive assistance

If a woman has long been in the category of old-time pregnant women, or, as they now say, old-age primigravidas, and pregnancy still does not occur, modern methods of reproduction will help her. “This is in vitro fertilization, sperm donation, oocyte donation, surrogacy, the ICSI procedure - the injection of sperm into the cytoplasm of the egg, which is possible if you have your own follicles. It just happens that they are still there, but they seem to be “sleeping,” sitting quietly: in preparation for IVF, their growth is stimulated by a powerful dose of hormones. It’s another matter when the supply is depleted and there is simply nothing to stimulate,” notes Svetlana Botasheva. So, first of all, for women who have stepped beyond the optimal age, a full and extensive consultation with a doctor is required. Various tests may be required before a decision is made about pregnancy.