How to tell if a man is married - 10 distinctive signs

Relationships between a man and a woman sometimes take very bizarre forms.
It’s good if partners love each other and strive to create a strong family that they will cherish throughout their lives. This is an ideal relationship between the sexes, which, unfortunately, is becoming less and less common. Nowadays, no one is surprised when a married man takes a mistress, from whom he does not even hide his marital status. Why hide? After all, then you will have to deceive two women at once. But there are desperate family men who start an affair and do not tell their beloved that they are already married. Men explain this behavior by the fear of losing their mistress if she finds out the truth. A guy who can deceive two women at once has a huge arsenal of tricks and tricks. A girl caught in his network will be defenseless against such treachery. How to protect yourself? How can you tell if a man is married but is hiding it? From this article you will learn:

• Why is it so important to find out that your chosen one is married?
• By what signs can you understand that a man is married, but is hiding
• How his phone will help you understand that the man is married and hiding it
• How to understand that a man is married, but is hiding it, and decide to break up with him
• Why is it so important to find the strength to break up with a married man?

Marital status is obvious

Women have great intuition and intelligence. They conduct their own research quite thoroughly and make a lot of effort to find out what is really important and interesting to them. From the first minutes of meeting, girls pay attention to important points indicating a person’s marital status. Simple ways to help you immediately figure out the “married man”:

1. Wedding ring. The cute attribute sits so firmly and habitually on the finger that most guys walking around forget to take it off and hide it when planning to flirt with another girl.
2. Stamp in the passport. There is no more important evidence of the existence of a marriage bond, but it is not always possible to look at a man’s document.
3. Data on the phone. In any case, a married guy will have a subscriber on his mobile phone list signed as his wife. Or beloved. However, if a representative of the stronger sex likes to walk to the left, then it is unlikely that he would sign his wife with affectionate nicknames. However, such cases are also known.

A woman will most likely not be able to look at her boyfriend’s phone number and passport, so you can track your marital status in other, simpler ways.

Test for the “nepotism” of a man

The most common ways to check a man for his marital status:

• Call his mobile phone and check under what name you are entered in his address book .
• Give a gift (buy a man a shirt, wallet, etc.). Check to see if the gentleman will wear it.
• Make inquiries online.
• Investigate his mobile phone.
• Ask to visit , examine the situation in the apartment.

Of course, this detective game is not everyone's cup of tea. A decent girl will not carry out surveillance and scan messages. Moreover, doubts in a man are the first sign of mistrust. And without trust, no relationship will last long. But if, nevertheless, the worm of doubt bites from the inside, then you can take a closer look at the gentleman and try to determine the man’s status based on known signs.

Behavior of a married man

How can you understand that a handsome guy who is stubbornly trying to win the attention and affection of a lady is in a legal or civil marriage? A bachelor man can be seen from afar, but a ringed guy is sometimes not easy to figure out, but it is possible.

When young people communicate for a short time, a girl just needs to pay attention to a few points:

• Family issue. When asking a young lady about her marital status, the man remains silent, laughs it off, changes the topic, or answers rather evasively and incomprehensibly.
• Telephone tick. During a phone call, the man tenses, shudders, does not pick up, smiling nervously. Keeps the mobile phone at a safe distance so that the interlocutor does not have the opportunity to spy on the subscriber’s name.
• Waiting for the cuckoo. At a meeting with a girl or while getting to know each other, the guy keeps looking at his watch. When in a crowded place, he turns suspiciously at people passing by, is absent-minded and not attentive during a conversation if some people loom on the horizon. He peers closely at their faces and turns to the girl with relief if he doesn’t notice anyone he knows.

The young man will ask for a phone number, but most likely will not give his own. He will explain this behavior by being busy and having good manners: “I’ll find you myself, dear!”

How to decide to break up with a married man: advice from psychologists

It can be difficult to catch a deceiver by the hand, but in this matter, your reliable ally will be a woman’s intuition. If you have already accumulated a sufficient amount of evidence, then think about whether you are ready to find out the truth.

Building relationships is a daily work, it is a colossal expenditure of physical and emotional resources. However, a relationship with a married man is a thankless task. You will put your soul into them, and the gentleman will only need sexual pleasure from you. A man who is married believes that he does not owe you anything. Today he is with you, tomorrow he will find another mistress. Therefore, ending such a harmful relationship for you is the best thing you can do.

If you realize that you no longer want to date a married man despite the fact that the feelings have not yet passed, then you need to prepare to go through four stages:

• Prepare yourself for a breakup

It’s one thing to decide that it’s all over, and completely different to accept this choice, tune in to its implementation, not give yourself any concessions and not feel sorry for yourself. Taking the first step is the most difficult thing, especially if you understand that you are burning all your bridges and that there is no turning back.

• Take a sober look at the situation

Soberly assess your position in the love triangle, analyze the strengths and weaknesses of your lover. Focus your attention on the fact that a relationship with a married man destroys your personality, makes you unhappy, and prevents you from revealing the full potential of love and care that is hidden in your soul.

• Change your behavior

Try changing your behavior completely to speed up the breakup. After all, a man is attracted to you by certain actions, manners, words, and care. Eliminate everything he likes about your relationship. Radically change your behavior, become a cold and calculating vamp lady, if before that you were a sincere and gentle dandelion.

• Talk openly about the breakup

The most direct, but not the most reliable way to break off relations with your lover is to openly tell him about it. You need to firmly communicate that you do not agree to play second fiddle forever, that you want more from life. The main thing is not to give in to emotions and not give in to tears. Otherwise, the man will see your weakness and decide that all is not lost and that you can be persuaded to maintain the relationship.

Experts in relationship psychology advise rehearsing a conversation in front of a mirror in order, firstly, to throw out all the negative emotions, and secondly, to analyze your weaknesses and work on mistakes.

So, the question “how to understand that a man is married but is hiding” is no longer before you. The truth has come true, the deception has been revealed. Further events largely depend only on you. You can agree to a relationship with a married man, or you can decide to break up. If you choose the second option, then get ready for strong emotional experiences. After all, you can’t command your heart; you have already become attached to the deceiver and made plans for the future. Try to connect your mind and remember that you will not find true happiness in this relationship. Throw away everything that reminds you of your ex-boyfriend, find a new hobby, communicate more with friends and go on dates.

Soon you will certainly meet your love, which you will not need to share with anyone and with whom you will find long-awaited happiness.

Thank you for reading this article to the end.

Hello, my name is Yaroslav Samoilov. I am an expert in the psychology of relationships and over the years of practice I have helped more than 10,000 girls meet worthy soul mates, build harmonious relationships and return love and understanding to families that were on the verge of divorce.

More than anything, I am inspired by the happy eyes of students who meet the people of their dreams and enjoy a truly vibrant life.

My goal is to show women a way to develop relationships that will help them create a synergy of success and happiness!

Signs that a man is married

The appearance of a busy man is quite neat and well-groomed. He wears ironed shirts, a matching tie and socks. Such a guy looks confident, calm, and gives off a feeling of reliability and a certain comfort. In some cases, married people are no different from would-be bachelors: unkempt clothes, unshaven cheeks, holey socks, untrimmed mane of hair... In this situation, it is not surprising why a man cannot sit at home, in the reliable rear of his “caring” wife.

An unfree man does not have a hungry sparkle in his eyes when he sees a pretty beauty. His gaze lights up and examines the appetizing person with pleasure, but at the same time some moderation and calm are maintained.

When choosing a “new acquaintance”, he behaves quite confidently and selectively, like a fed cat. The guy perfectly guesses a woman’s mood and knows how to please her. When meeting, a man maintains a certain distance:

• does not hold hands in crowded places;
• in a car, most often, he puts the lady in the back seat;
• in a cafe, cinema, in the park, he keeps himself under control so as not to hug or kiss his companion (guided by the fact that he does not like sidelong glances and people’s gossip);
• prefers to make dates in distant places and at later times.

A married man will happily respond to an offer to spend time outside the city, at the dacha, or on the other side of the globe, as long as he is away from his native place and casual acquaintances.

Romance with a married gentleman

Dating with married people always follows the same scenario. He does not stay long and in rare cases he will be able to stay overnight with a woman. A man will not invite a young lady to his home. Romantic meetings are scheduled either in hotel rooms, in rented apartments, or at “some acquaintance’s” house. A guy will find a lot of reasons not to invite a woman to his home: an old mother, renovations, visiting relatives, an angry, inexorable huge Great Dane. He feeds the girl with promises that one day he will bring her to him when “he is ready.” In the worst case scenario, a woman crosses the threshold of his house in the absence of her wife. However, such an event poses a huge risk: the mother-in-law may come, the neighbor may see, or the mistress will discover the presence of a living “competitor”.

During a meeting, a man turns off his mobile phone or goes into another room when someone calls him.

He finds a lot of reasons not to stay overnight with a woman, and if he stays until the morning, then in very rare cases.

The guy critically examines his clothes, the interior of the car, for traces of lipstick or any other stains. He warns in advance that the passionate lover does not leave marks of bites, scratches and “hickeys” on his skin.

Top secret

Being in a long-term relationship with a guy, a girl will notice that he avoids meeting her family and does not seek to introduce him to his family. Among numerous acquaintances and friends, only a small percentage of friends know about her, and perhaps no one at all. The man forbids calling home, citing a lot of arguments about his sick great-grandmother, who lives in the same room with him and is extremely busy. If a woman decides to make a phone call to her boyfriend, she receives the following in response:

• his phone is switched off;
• no one answers the phone;
• the partner answers in a muffled voice, trying to brush it off and quickly end the conversation.

In the most unexpected and unpleasant situation, a “third party” answers the phone, which may turn out to be the spouse of the spouse, a child, or that same sick great-grandmother, which is very doubtful.

Behavioral features3

Appearance cannot always give away a married man. Basically, they try to minimize risks and are attentive to the visual component of their image of a bachelor. If you haven’t noticed any of the above signs, then it’s too early to relax.

• Contact at certain hours

If a guy always calls and texts you at the same time, then most likely he spends the rest of the day next to his constant companion. Of course he will say that he works a lot, does his hobbies or reads newspapers. In fact, married men are very afraid that their wife will suspect them of infidelity. Therefore, they try to communicate during lunch breaks, while in the bathroom in the evening, and the like.

• Calls are prohibited

He himself can call you when it is convenient for him. He doesn’t answer your number, and then when you meet, he explains that he doesn’t like sudden phone calls, long conversations, and in general, you’re such an interesting person that I want to see you in person, look you in the eye and catch the energy.

This is all complete nonsense. A man always wants to be available to the woman he loves. It is important for him that in moments of anxiety, sadness or life problems she dials his number. And what kind of woman would trust her life to a man if he is constantly out of reach and has to wait hours, or even days, for an answer from him?

• Doesn't talk about himself

If you ask a new acquaintance about his place of work, this will be an absolutely normal question. Each person devotes a lot of his time to professional activities. This is a truly important part of life, which largely shapes personality and influences life principles.

Moreover, for a man, his work is a reason for pride. Success in a career is much more important for a male than for a girl. So, if, when asked about his type of activity, he begins to go into abstract reasoning and takes the conversation away from personal issues, the likelihood that he is not free in his personal life becomes colossal.

Okay work, maybe he is a secret agent or a secret millionaire who is afraid that he will meet a selfish woman. Another point is personal hobbies, on which we all spend a decent part of our lives. If he says that he goes to a fitness club, but begins to hide the name like the biggest secret, this is an alarm bell.

A great many such moments can arise. Married men can regularly laugh it off in response, ask him not to pry into his personal affairs, or simply ignore questions. If you notice such oddities and a complete lack of desire to talk about his personal life, then he is clearly not free.

• He is not on social networks

Nowadays it is extremely rare to meet a person, even of advanced age, who does not have a single social network. When asked how to find a new friend on Instagram and VKontakte, you receive a denial of the presence of an active profile? It’s strange, but at least Facebook or Odnoklassniki should interest him.

If he says that social networks are evil, and he himself met you, say, on Tinder or on Badu, then this is definitely a lie. It’s just that his page is most likely filled with photographs with his beloved wife, relatives and mutual family friends. You are simply not allowed into that part of life that is a stable reality.

The same can be said if he is immediately added to your friend list from a page where there are either no friends at all or they are hidden from prying eyes. A page that is created solely to divert your attention is easy to figure out. In response to all questions, you will hear that he does not like social networks, he recently created a new profile and did not have time to add anything to it.

It’s even more interesting if the name on his account doesn’t match his real name. The young man clearly wants to hide something from his new acquaintance, so he shows her his fake backup account in case of emergency.

Ways to find out if a man is married

It is not difficult to understand that a subject is ringed if he follows a mysterious line of behavior for a long time. The man does not make plans for the future, is absent during weekends and holidays, and does not give expensive gifts. A married guy provides for his family, so he does not allow unnecessary expenses to court another woman. Such factors can alert the fairer sex and give reason for reflection on the topic: “Are you married, my beloved?”

You can check whether a man has a spouse or live-in partner using his phone. Just dial your number and see how the woman is signed. “Someone else’s spouse” will not take risks and will come up with a rather original “nickname” for his mistress, understandable only to him. The following “names” are possible under the girl’s number:

• Lyudmila Arkadyevna;
• Anya, merchandiser;
• Vaska;
• “pizza with home delivery”;
• N.V;
• unsigned number.

It is enough to give a man a gift - and the woman will understand whether he is in another relationship or not. The partner will not wear a sweater knitted with his own hands, or flaunt a wristwatch given by his mistress, and will come up with a compelling reason to somehow justify his behavior.

Reasons for adultery by men

Every person who cheats on his other half has a million excuses for his vile act. Really, there's a lot to be said for maintaining a warm, stable place to live.

To be honest, betrayals mostly do not result from scandals. First on the list of significant impulses is the desire to learn new things. For men, sex is not as intimate an event as it is for women. They often say that it is more of a natural process based on primal instincts.

First of all, a man who is in a relationship or marriage with a single girl seeks confirmation and recognition of his skills in bed from other representatives of the fair sex. They love with their eyes, this is a known fact. It’s not for nothing that millions of women are jealous of simple communication and correspondence with other ladies. A man loves flirting, because from time immemorial he has been a hunter.

In marriage, a wife is equated over time to a won trophy. It becomes less interesting with her, because she now devotes most of her time to children or household issues. Everything was different before. You looked at the stars together, dreamed and made plans. Sex was more varied, there was something to surprise each other.

In general, a man is looking for a lover who is simply different from his wife. The point very often is not that your love has passed, he just wants something new. Perhaps the married man will like the girl less in bed for one night, but he has already received those emotions from hunting that he lacked in marriage.

The reasons for cheating may also lie in an unstable and unhealthy situation in your relationship. If a wife constantly nags her husband, squabbles and hysterics occur, then he simply goes away to rest. For some, cheating on your spouse is equivalent to going out on the balcony to smoke. He simply lets off steam in the arms of another girl and returns home calmly.

If the relationship has crossed all boundaries, conflicts occur regularly, then this indicates that you have failed to preserve your love. In this case, the married man no longer even has any hope of restoring harmonious family relationships. He simply uses his wife as a housewife and nanny for his offspring.

Here the role of women should become paramount. A man does not disrupt his campaigns to the left, which means he does not value and does not love his wife. In order not to be humiliated, not to gain a lot of complexes, leave. Better yet, recognize immediately when a married man is only using you for one or two evenings. We will talk about this further in the link.

How to tell if a man is married online?

Men assume that on social networks it is much easier than in real life to weave intrigues while hiding their marital status. However, the all-seeing female eye and flexible mind are ready to crack through any “tough nut”. To understand that a virtual gentleman is married to another lady and is posing as another person, it is enough to pay attention to the following points:

1. The profile is designed with a certain mystery: instead of real initials, an indefinite one is indicated: Alexey Rostovsky or Oleg Krasivy (Vladimir Experienced, Ilya Muromets, Dobrynya Nikitich and others).
2. In place of the main photograph there are photographs of nature, actors, slender girls or all kinds of jokes.
3. Nothing is indicated in the “marital status” and “date of birth” columns.
4. The subscriber's page is in a private profile and has a small number of friends.
5. A man writes mostly late at night or in the morning. Practically does not sit in the evening. He abruptly ends the conversation and disappears from the “online”, as if someone unexpectedly entered the room and interfered with his communication.

A woman, having excellent intuition, will feel the discomfort and insincerity of a guy who will try to “sit on two chairs.”

How to determine if your virtual boyfriend is married?

• He does not give you his phone number , Skype, ICQ.
• He never calls you from his home number and doesn't want you to call him.
• It is not his photo that is posted online , but a photo of a stranger, an actor, or just a funny picture.
• Instead of his real name, he uses a pseudonym everywhere .
• When communicating with you on Skype or ICQ, he constantly leaves the chat rather abruptly . As a rule, this is explained by the appearance of his wife next to him.
• When asked directly about marital status, he laughs it off , changes the subject, or even “runs off to run errands.”

Even an experienced adult woman can be deceived and not understand that in front of her is a married man. What can we say about romantic young girls, whom love blinds, deafens and completely blocks their intuition and instinct of self-preservation. Sooner or later, as we know, everything secret becomes clear. What to do if you suddenly realized that your man is married? There are not many options for the development of events. If you forgive him for this lie and remain nearby in the role of a mistress, then, most likely, you will never rise above this status . Why do men have mistresses? One day he will play enough, or you will get tired. It happens, of course, that a man files for divorce and creates a new family with his mistress, but the percentage of happy families created in this way is negligibly low. It is impossible to build your own happiness on the ruins of someone else's .

What should a woman be wary of?

A married man can be recognized by the tactical line he follows in relation to the girl. If a gentleman does not talk about the future, does not give expensive gifts, or does not try to introduce a woman to the circle of his friends and relatives, then this is a cause for concern.

If you have any suspicions, it is advisable to check them using your phone. You need to try to find out how the girl is signed in the man’s list of numbers. Married womanizers usually play it safe and sign their mistresses with fictitious names that only they can understand. For example: Emma Eduardovna, Pizza delivery, Masha the administrator, Petka, some initials, unsigned number.

Three effective ways to determine a man's marital status

Info

Our legislation quite thoroughly regulates issues related to divorce. Although occasionally unexpected nuances occur. For example, a situation may arise when it becomes unclear whether a couple has been divorced or whether they are still officially married.

Important

Why does this happen and what needs to be done in order to finally be sure that the divorce has taken place? Content

• How to find out about divorce
• How to find out the date of divorce
• Who can receive information about divorce

How to find out about a divorce Get information from the registry office This government agency deals with the procedure for divorce of married couples in the case where both spouses give their consent. That is, if you did not consent to the divorce, then you could not be divorced. It is worth drawing your attention to the fact that there are several conditions under which a divorce on the initiative of only one spouse can take place.

To find out for sure, you should contact the central registry office:

• the city in which the marriage was registered,
• cities in which each spouse is registered.

The application must be accompanied by a marriage certificate and asked to provide information on whether a divorce has been registered between these persons. If the divorce is registered, you should apply for the re-issuance of a divorce certificate - it will be documentary evidence of the divorce.

Without receiving a response from the defendant, the court could dissolve the marriage at the request of the plaintiff. Exceptions to the rules are:

• Unknown absence established by the court;
• Incapacity;
• Conviction to imprisonment for a term of 3 years or more.

In the presence of the above circumstances, the marriage could be dissolved without the knowledge of the second spouse. Information about the date of divorce is the responsibility of the government department - the Civil Registry Office.

To obtain information about the fact of divorce you should:

• By request to the registry office of the city where the marriage was registered;
• To the registry office at the place of residence of the other half, indicating her full name.

The written request must be accompanied by a marriage certificate. If the answer is yes, you will need to request a duplicate document confirming the divorce.

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We've covered all the legal methods you can use. But the process of searching for information is not complete. If you want to know about the marital status of a friend, we will give some practical life tips that may come in handy.

“I want to know if my lover was married (or if my girlfriend was married). A divorce has been filed, but maybe not.” There are often such citizens who want to find out information about their significant other. But is it possible to obtain such information on a complete stranger? And how can you find out a person’s marital status via the Internet?

The civil registry office will not disclose this information to outsiders, since such information is confidential and is not subject to disclosure.

Such information cannot be found on the Internet either, since there are no unified databases containing this information in the public domain.

Therefore, you can only find out all the information you are interested in from your significant other.

And it also happens that you may like a person whose marital status is unknown. How to recognize whether he is bound by the bonds of a barracks or not?

Here then, perhaps, only observation and attentiveness will help. You should especially pay attention to the following signs:

1. the presence of a ring on the ring finger (or a trace from it);
2. pay special attention to any details when talking (for example, if a person says: “I spend the weekend with friends, in the evening after work I meet at a bar with friends and the like,” then most likely the person does not have an official relationship. After all, people married, spend evenings and weekends with their families);
3. your marital status can also be revealed by the car you use (you must admit, usually family people buy minivans; they are unlikely to buy a sports car);
4. pages on social networks can also provide a sufficient amount of information about marital status;
5. other methods.

To summarize, it is definitely not possible to obtain official information in a legal way. Therefore, use other methods and techniques, but they are not always suitable for absolutely all people. So, the easiest way is to talk and try to get the information you need.

He gives himself away

Usually family men look neat and well-groomed. They always wear clean and ironed clothes, and the color of their tie and socks matches the overall look. A married man exudes comfort and tranquility, he radiates confidence. Of course, there are also types who cannot be distinguished from “homeless” bachelors. They are always unshaven, wearing rumpled and holey clothes. It is not surprising that such marital “care” will make a man want to look for other women.

A fire may light up in the eyes of a married man at the sight of a pretty girl, but still he looks more restrained and calm. When choosing a new acquaintance, he shows special selectivity. He knows perfectly well what he wants, and also easily guesses the girl’s desires.

When communicating, the “married man” maintains a certain distance, namely:

never takes a girl by the hand in public, if he gives a woman a lift, he prefers to sit her in the back seat in a restaurant or park, behaves with restraint, does not kiss or hug his companion, citing his modesty and seriousness, makes dates very late and mainly in remote places, for example, in the country, outside the city, anywhere, just away from human eyes

How to break up with a married man?

Taking such a step requires willpower and great courage. Think about your life and the future. Rethink and reflect on your relationship with a married man. Does this novel have a future? It is doomed to fail in most cases.

You need to accept that a married man is simply using you as a thing. His wife is constantly deceived. If a man lies to her, then soon he may lie to you. Do the same as he is now doing with his wife. You too may find yourself in the place of his wife. According to psychologists, this is most often what happens. This argument is quite simple, but powerful. Run away from such relationships, don’t complicate your life yourself.